Comments on: Legal Strangers

By: Kimberly

Kimberly — Thu, 27 Sep 2007 11:23:13 +0000

I’ll keep you in my thoughts. I really hope MD comes through soon, or at least antoher state. I read somewhere that 70% of the population was against multiethnic marriages when they became legal.. I think same-sex marriage has a much lower number against. Then again, it boggles my mind that white/black/etc. marriages were ever illegal - I didn’t grow up in that time period.

I guess I just don’t understand why so many people are offended by the idea of same sex marriage. It hurts many people’s feelings when the far right spit out horrible, hateful things that some people actually listen to. Their day will come, soon, I hope. When everyone starts paying attention and goes ‘huh, what? are you nuts?” and throw the lot of hate talking radio jockeys and spiteful televangelists under the bus.

Then again, when looking up the lyric’s to Kanye West’s new song, there were so many people commenting things like ‘wow! this is aweome! my new favorite!’ and “this has so much deeper meaning” that I now want to just leave the country.

By: Chris Anderson

Chris Anderson — Wed, 26 Sep 2007 01:32:42 +0000

I wish you all the best. My wife and I have been married for 11 years and 6 days at this point. I originally resisted the idea since I have no desire for children, and feel no need to bring either the state nor any religion into my personal life. Upon reflection I realized that legal prudence made marriage a good plan, so we had a lovely wedding, and now my mother in law accepts that my wife and I are together for life. Nevermind the decade or so of monogamous cohabitation which preceded the actual wedding…

It leaves me furious that our society can so entwine social and religious functions. Mind you, I live in Boston, so if you guys come out this way we can throw you a wedding-like-separate-but-equal-party (and who is being kidded here), but all the work I can do for equality does not seem to amount to much amongst the choir as it were.

So, society thinks you are deviant, perverted and criminal. Well, I think two of those are just fine, and the third is unjust :) Please remember (as you clearly do) that you do have allies amongst those who blend more easily into “normal” society. We will not give up, not just for your sake, but because it is the right thing to do.

By: ordinarygirl

ordinarygirl — Tue, 25 Sep 2007 20:48:20 +0000

This is part of the reason why I didn’t want to get married. The government shouldn’t have any right to tell anyone who they can or can not marry. When my father was sick in the hospital and I thought about the type of access my partner would have to me and to making decisions about me, I reconsidered. For a while I explored the same options you’re being forced to take. In the end we got married (in a civil ceremony, but it’s still considered a marriage by law because we’re heterosexual).

I can only imagine what you’re going through. I can’t know. But it still angers me that this type of discrimination exists. And I’m sorry to be part of a society that perpetuates it. One day I believe we’ll be ashamed as a society, not just as individuals.

By: Jason S.

Jason S. — Tue, 25 Sep 2007 14:23:56 +0000

I’ve had Kim and Kim has had me for 11 months and 24 days. If anything I would hope you were keeping a tally on the precious minutes and seconds that while you and Scott possess one another in a bond of time, that the anniversaries you celebrate in the state may entail some estimation of time added to this suffering and if you serve a bill should include the precious calculation.

All that said, you may have a dozen marriages before our nation sees reason, but you are married under the eyes of your friends and family. When the law finally decides to become a teacher, you get to know you were right while the majority was wrong.

Given our accounting system in history, you get to win.